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DESTRUCTIVE NARCISSISM – THE CYCLE OF DECLINE, PART II

In our last blog, we discussed the beginning of the cycle of decline for a narcissist. Today, we will continue down that path. As a reminder, our discussion started with healthy self-assurance and well-founded confidence that moves to overconfidence and superiority; then from superiority to grandiosity; and finally to emotional isolation. What happens when the […]

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THE PATH TO DESTRUCTIVE NARCISSISM: THE CYCLE OF DECLINE

In our discussions on leadership, it is impossible not to discuss narcissism and its effect on others.  This week, we will discuss how a person enters the downward cycle away from constructive narcissism.  How often do you see these patterns in your leadership circle, and how do you protect yourself from adopting unhealthy patterns? Constructive narcissists […]

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GOLDILOCKS, PORCUPINES & CHAMELEONS – PART 2B: THE PORCUPINE LEADER

In our last post, we discussed the challenges working with leaders who are prickly, unapproachable and highly defensive, earning them the tile of a porcupine leader.  The porcupine leader is rightly termed a fundamentalist.  I am NOT using the term to refer to the 20th century Protestant movement that emphasizes adherence to the basic, “fundamental” beliefs […]

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THE ROOTS OF EMOTIONAL MALFUNCTIONING

  It took only one generation for Adam and Eve’s emotional brokenness to infect the lives of their children.  The story of their first son, Cain, and his younger brother Abel highlight the tragic consequences of the fall on the emotional life of humanity.  You can read the story of Cain and Abel in Genesis […]

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LEADING WITH PURPOSE

In classical Greek literature,faith is akin to fidelity, which signifies an honored agreement or bond of trust. Fidelity is faithful and lasting devotion to one’s duties and obligations, sacred loyalty to one’s commitments.  Faith is that which binds people together to a special purpose, a larger story, which calls upon each person to risk and sacrifice […]

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PURPOSE FUELS RESILIENCE

Resilience is derived from the Latin term resilire, meaning “to bounce or spring back.”  A resilient material resumes its former shape after being pressed, bent or stretched out of shape, much like a bungee cord or rubber band. Emotional resilience is the strength to rebound from loss or failure.  Some individuals possess the strength and […]

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THE POWER OF DIVINE PURPOSE

The pioneering research of Harvard sociologist Gordon Allport established a connection between our instinctive spiritual questing and the energy released through the Zeigarnik effect. Echoing Zeigarnik, Allport found that goals that are never quite fulfilled are the ones best able to direct attention, guide current striving and maintain unity and integration in the individual. Spiritual goals, according […]

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THE ZEIGARNIK EFFECT: WHY PURPOSE SUSTAINS INTEREST

The inherent power of purpose to focus and energize us on any given day and over a lifetime is explained, at least in part (I don’t think we can fully explain it) by a phenomenon called the Zeigarnik Effect. The Zeigarnik Effect states that people remember uncompleted or interrupted tasks better than completed ones. Russian […]

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Reflections on Finding Purpose

REFLECTIONS ON FINDING PURPOSE

I love the scene from City Slickers where Curly Washburn, the rough and tumble cowboy, played by Jack Palance offers the Billy Crystal character, Mitch Robbins, some words of wisdom. Curly tells Mitch that, to figure out the meaning of life, all he has to do is to know this “one thing.” Of course Curly […]

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